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- I used a throw away email address.
- I used online dating services (I preferred the free services) why pay when you weren't guaranteed a return. I used PlentyofFish - POF
- I made up a profile on POF's site.
- I found that many sites, both free and paid (some friends used paid), were filled with people just looking for sex. I wasn't one of them. I wrote an honest profile and was clear about what I wanted.
- I would respond to ads that seemed as if the men were honest, moral and decent.
- When I would meet someone who was interesting, I always spoke to them first over the site.
- If I felt comfortable, we would graduate to private messages on personal email (my throw away email)
- If someone asked to speak via phone and I felt comfortable, I would tell them to give me their number.
- I informed them I would be blocking my number. If someone objected, it was over, I wasn't interested.
- If I decided to meet someone, I did so in public.
- I always let a friend know where I was going, what time and sent them the profile of the person I was meeting.
- My friends and I had a code. We would call or text one another at certain times. If all was ok, we would say so.
- We had code words which we knew meant help or I'm not into this person, etc.
- The best reason we came up with to leave a date without angering/upsetting the person was, "sorry, the person watching my kids just texted/called. I need to get home."
- But, if I liked the person, I would accept a second date, also meeting in public.
- I liked his picture.
- He had the kindest eyes and a very pleasant face.
- He looked like he was a really nice person.
- He was dressed in a tuxedo (I love a man in a tux).
- It was a nice change from all the other profile pictures.
- He chose one where he looked his best and looked classy!
I later found out he had been best man for his friend (they've been friends 45 years, since childhood, and call each other brother). He used a picture from that event as his profile. Good choice.
I passed up his profile, probably 10 times. How do you respond to someone that tells you nothing. Then, one day, after seeing nothing but CRAPOLA on other profiles, I sent him a message. I simply wrote "I agree with you." which was in response to his statement "It's what's on the inside that counts."
I found out later that he got tired of writing out long profiles only to meet nasty, crappy, crazy women!
I had a full profile. He read my profile after receiving my message. He liked everything I had written, but was exceptionally intrigued that I said I loved WWII. I find stories of survival amazing. I would read/watch fiction and nonfiction revolving around WWII.
Hubby is a history buff and his specialty is WWII. He's so good, he really should be a Professor, which he was told by several professionals. In fact, one time he did correct a Professor in conversation. The Professor insisted he was wrong. The next day, the Professor came over and told him he was right!
He'd never met a female who also loved WWII. And so... WWII brought us together!
Pros And Cons of Online Dating: Everything has it's pros and cons in life. (See Pros And Cons)
- You talk to the person for a while. You get a feel for them.
- Sometimes a trigger goes off, a warning so to speak. I once met a guy who kept sending me messages over the dating site.
- We had been chatting about two weeks.
- I could see the messages on my phone and would click quick.
- He kept sending repeated messages and then said in the last one, "I can see you are reading them."
- By the last comment and previous comments, I could tell he was angry and accusatory.
- Yes... I was "reading" them. At RED LIGHTS. I was DRIVING, I was WORKING, going from one appointment to another.
- That was a big red flag. I blocked him. Be gone with you psycho man.
- Anyone who expects an immediate reply is either insecure, demanding, controlling, doesn't value your time, doesn't value your work ethic or all of the above.
- If you start harassing someone two weeks in, forget it.
- You get a feel for personality (good and bad).
- You can get a feel for whether they are just looking for sex.
- Chatting back and forth helps you to get to know someone.
- Asking questions helps to get to know if you are compatible.
- You can't see body language, eyes, facial expressions, etc. so, if someone is a good liar, they could be lying to you online.
- There are crazies out there who play games and prey on women.
That didn't go very well. I left him 10 days before Christmas in 1994 after 9 years too long of marriage! I knew him 11 years too long total!
Sometimes, it's just pure luck that you meet a sane, nice, caring, honest person whether it be in person or online! Take precaution with either option and hope for the best!
- When I met my husband, a close family member, who was very young, had terminal cancer.
- Another close family member, also fairly young, with small children, was diagnosed with breast cancer.
- Then his good friend was diagnosed with cancer.
- Then the woman who raised him was also diagnosed with cancer.
- Three more of my family members have been diagnosed with cancer during our marriage within the past two years.
- The person who had breast cancer, got sick again in 2016 with cancer in a different part of the body.
- Him and I have both struggled with our own health problems.
- The economy was horrific at times.
- Employers were downsizing, and he was a victim of layoffs.
- Small business owners were having a hard time - that hit me bad.
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l - r -bottom - hubby riding on the cart in Sam's Club - me as a pimp on Halloween
ALL THESE PICS WERE TAKEN AT LEAST 4 YEARS AGO IF NOT MORE
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