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Friday, May 26, 2017

I Can't Believe It's Been Six Years!!!!!

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l - r - top  me on our honeymoon, a house near where we stayed, the docks
l - r - middle hubby and I at the lighthouse, beautiful water, private beach signs
l - r - bottom  Wedding at Gurney's Inn, yachts docked in Sag Harbor, famous restaurant
Our Honeymoon Montauk, New York
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Memorial Day Weekend is our 6th Wedding Anniversary, May 29th to be exact.  We were married Memorial Day Weekend in 2011. I can't believe it's been six years!!!!!


We chose the long weekend because we could hold the wedding on Sunday and everyone had off from work and school on Monday!  For those not from the New York area, school ends the last week of June here. It doesn't start back until the beginning of September, after Labor Day!

It was difficult to hold the wedding on a Saturday as many people in my immediate family work on Saturdays.

CLICK VIDEO - This is where my husband proposed.

Hubby proposed to me at the same docks in Patchogue, NY as in the video above!

When I planned our wedding, I thought it would be adorable to have all little kids in my wedding party, other than my daughter, who would be Maid of Honor.  I loved the way it looked in Royal weddings and I thought it would look pretty for a second wedding.

9/28/85 - the day after Hurricane Gloria hit Long Island.  My mom handmade my gown and the flower girl's gown.

For my first wedding I had eight bridesmaids, a Maid of Honor and a flower girl.  I am still friends with almost all who were in my wedding party, and of course, I still see those that are my relatives.  

l - r back - hubby, me, my daughter (Maid Of Honor) my niece, his nice, my niece, his niece
l - r - front his niece, my nephew, family friend we consider a niece
Plans changed when my niece got excited about my engagement and asked to be a bridesmaid.  I couldn't say no.  And so... I had a bunch of little kids and some older ones too!

We weren't going to take a honeymoon.  Someone very close to us was very ill.  We decided last minute to take a honeymoon close to home, hence our choice of Montauk Point, New York.  Montauk is part of The Hamptons and is a big destination wedding location and honeymoon spot! (See 12 Facts About Long Island, New York)

So how will we celebrate our Anniversary?



We don't celebrate during Memorial Day weekend.  We are with family and friends instead.  Also, on Long Island, Memorial Day Weekend is the unofficial "start" of summer!  Everyone will head out East for the three day weekend (locals, people from the city and people from all over the world).

  • Traffic is very heavy
  • Crowds are huge
  • Prices are sky high.
  • Gas prices go up
  • All prices go up
  • Basically, you get less for more money.  It's the same reason I never travelled during school breaks.  I always took my kids out of school for our vacations!
Instead, we celebrate during the week, the week after.  We have a few things in mind.

  • My favorite game is Craps.  I also like the slot machines, which is all they have I think.  When I would go to Mohegan Sun, I'd play Craps. 
  • Another idea is to head out East on the North Shore, not the South Shore which is the home of The Hamptons. 
  • The North Shore is home to Long Island's Farms and Wineries.  
  • Often the wineries will have live entertainment and you can sit outdoors and enjoy.
  • While I can't personally taste the wine or eat anything, I can bring my own food and bottled water. Hubby can order a glass of wine and some appetizers. 
  • Maybe we will go see a show in NYC depending on how we both feel.  We can't also do dinner, but we can see some sites too.  (See Foods And Drinks That Originated In Or Are Associated With New York Part 1)
The cruise ship my daughter is on with family and friends as I type this!  This is a picture taken by one of the people in her group.  
I would love to take a cruise (I've taken many but hubby has never been) or travel to Punta Cana this summer with the rest of my family, but we can't.  (See How Would You Escape Reality If Money and Time Were No Object?)

On my daughter's cruise - picture taken by one of the group on the cruise now.
My daughter is on a cruise as I type this and I'm LOVING seeing all the pictures and videos they are all sending while on vacation!  (See 15 Things I Loved About Being Young, Single And Healthy)

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Things are different now.  (See Time Travel - Is It Possible?)  I'm limited.  But... we will celebrate, somehow, some way.  Whatever we do, it will be meaningful, fun, romantic and enjoyable.  We may not be jetting off to Europe, but, hey, people Jet TO Long Island every day, so...  I'm already HERE! Lucky me.


Always look at the pros (See Pros And Cons) even when dealing with the cons (See Oops, I Did It Again....)   Remember, sometimes certain things are unexplained (See Divine Intervention? Amazing Luck? Or Was It Jinxed Real Estate? You Decide) but we must be grateful, it could be worse.

Sure I can't do what I used to do, however, I'm lucky to have been raised with a backbone and can deal with it.  (See Is Society Raising A Bunch Of Pansies?)

Stay tuned... Our Anniversary Celebration pictures/ videos coming soon! 


While you enjoy your barbecues, family, friends, beaches, activities, remember what this holiday is REALLY about.  
Enjoy a few drinks, but do it responsibly.  If you are on Long Island, be sure to have Long Island Iced Tea, but remember, even though it tastes like iced tea, it's NOT.  (See Foods And Drinks That Originated In Or Are Associated With New York Part 2)

BE SAFE, BE CAREFUL, BE SMART - ENJOY THE LONG HOLIDAY WEEKEND AND REMEMBER: DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE!   

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Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Is Society Raising A Bunch Of Pansies?

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Student protest
I read this blog post by a college student recently.  It got me thinking about the youngins these days. (See What We Did In The Waiting Room Would Shock Anyone Under 30 UPDATED)

I left a comment on her post.  Below is what I wrote:


Here is here response:



My response, still awaiting moderation:


For my feelings on society today, check out this recent post (See Willy Wonka! That's Not Me...)


How are these youngins going to go out in the real world and function?  Is most of society raising pansies?


What if  they suddenly need to face the medical challenges I'm facing?  Will they fall apart, scream it's unfair, commit suicide?  (See Oops, I Did It Again....)

We live in a world where if anyone hears anything they consider the least bit negative, they label the speaker a "hater", "negative", "a bully", "mean", "racist" and other nonsense. We are told we can only say "positive" things.


Is society filling youngins' heads with sugarplum fairies?  What happens when a boss is critical? What happens when they need to actually compete for a job or promotion?  What if they are downsized and out of a job?

What happens if the "mean lady in accounting" says something to offend them?  Does mommy get on the phone to Human Resources and demand her precious angel be removed from the current boss and position and placed elsewhere with a "nicer" boss and a politically correct accounting rep?

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Parental Guidance - Funny Movie - Yet Sad seeing how things are these days


Today, kids get trophies for no competition.What exactly did they win?  Life IS competition.
I lost the 3 legged race, but I won the writing competition!
I survived not winning the 3-legged race on field day several years in a row!  I wasn't scarred for life. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.  You have to learn to deal.


I was proud of winning an award for a story I wrote.  There was a contest among all the elementary schools (12) and the grade level (6 classes of 30 kids per class in each school).  I WON out of all those people!

In order to win, I had to work hard.  I wasn't handed an award to make me feel good about simply participating.

Colleges are giving kids a "safe place" because of election results!!!????  People are using safety pins as some sort of symbol!!!!!


The world isn't always going to be completely safe, the sooner one learns that, the better off they will be.

If our children are always around "safe people" who think exactly like their families or group, what happens when they go out into the big scary world of  PEOPLE who all think differently.  A huge does of culture shock and reality is what happens.


My great grandmother was married at 16.  She raised 9 children (lost some too, 9 lived) All four of my grandparents came from large families. No one had the time to cater to and pussy foot around one child.  The kids were better off for it!

My grandparents and their siblings spoke about their parents as if they were royalty until the day they died.  Today, we hear ungrateful brats cursing out parents and speaking of them badly.  They have no respect for anyone in authority.


My grandparents all survived the depression.  They raised kids and taught them respect, responsibility, and work ethic. They were fighting in WWII as teens and young men and the women were taking over the men's jobs AND still doing their jobs (raising kids, keeping homes).


My parents' generation fought in The Vietnam War.  They lived through their beautiful neighborhood in Brooklyn being invaded and ruined.


The Italian/American kids were picked on by the Irish cops.My dad and his friends lived it.  No one went home crying to mommy. They didn't picket in the streets, whine, complain or scream how they were being treated unfairly. They were too busy working.

Mom's Sweet 16 . Dad giving her a ring.
People married early, mostly in their teens years ago.  At one time, if you were 25 and unmarried, you were an old maid.  My parents met when mom was 15 and dad 17.  They married when mom was 19 and dad 21. I was born when mom was 21 and dad was 23.  They will be married 55 years (HAPPILY) this June!  They were mature, responsible and ADULT from the day they met and trust me, no one had more fun than them!


Now the "experts" are claiming "kids" do things because their brains aren't fully developed. So... we are sending 18 year olds to fight wars, allowing them to vote, allowing them to marry, sending them off to college all with underdeveloped brains!!!!!!!!!

Why was it our ancestors were able to raise kids at age 16, fight wars, and be adults? Hmmmm. There's this bridge in Brooklyn for sale.... HA HA.


Yes, there were bad things about those times, just like there's bad things about this time. THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT!  No matter the time in history, there's been good and bad.  It's the same today and it will be the same in the future!

Society is not preparing children for good and bad They want to demand (See You Should Have Demanded... Part One) everyone act one way and conform to THEIR beliefs!  Most of them are hypocrites no less.


People years ago had BACKBONES.  They didn't crumble and cry and whine when they didn't get their way or someone said a word they didn't like.

The world is a big place.  Not everyone will be just like you, believe exactly as you do, act the way you want them to.  That's a GOOD thing.  One must learn to deal with all types of people and not expect them to conform to their wants.


Society can change names of things to fool themselves.  It doesn't stop anything.  I was recently chatting with a teen who told me there's a cafe in their school run by special needs kids.

The kids refer to it as "The Chromosome Cafe".  Not in front of them.  There's also insult jokes to one another "you are special, VERY special."  That has replaced "you are such a retard." Same insult joke, different words.


Kids especially, but people in general, will always make jokes, tease, etc.  You can keep changing the name, the jokes will continue. It's a JOKE. I've seen professional comedians tell these type of jokes.


When I was a teen, I stood up for a handicapped person in a fast food restaurant. Kids were DIRECTLY TORMENTING the employee, not making a little joke amongst themselves.

I stood up, went over to the table of teen boys and said, "he has Downs Syndrome,"  what's your excuse.  I asked them to stop. Between my tone, expression and words, they chose to shut up fast. They realized how badly they were behaving.

Picking on someone directly, in any way, for any reason is way different than making innocent jokes. I laugh hysterical at jokes about Italians.  It's a JOKE.


I was able to do all this and more at 16!  At 16 I was working summers on Wall Street as an intern for my dad's company. No one forced me. I ASKED to do it!

I started earning my own money babysitting at age 12.  By 16, I was waitressing after school and was still expected to keep my grades and did, easily.

I've never allowed it and never will allow it.  No matter how hard someone tries, I know NO ONE is better than me. 
Kids need to be taught they can't control others and no one can control them.  The only person who can ever make them feel badly is themselves.  We should be teaching our kids to be strong, resilient, tough.  Not to whine, cry, moan, and demand others change to suit them!

It's not what you say, it's HOW you say it.  Someone can say the meanest things and never use a "bad" word.

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I made a video - the message is great, the video structure is not.  It was my first attempt at something like that.  But I think kids today need to hear it.

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